The Need For Validation

I craved the validation of my parents growing up. For even the smallest accomplishments my sisters received praise. I, however, fought to even be noticed.

Now, one could say that I suffer from middle child syndrome but it’s bigger than that. Standing out from my Oh so talented siblings wasn’t easy.

The reality is my parents will probably never give me what I wanted and ultimately believed I needed.  And that’s okay.

But it wasn’t until I took a hard look at myself now, I realize the lack of validation from my parents has affected me in my business.

Let me explain how.

Validation in Business

Whenever I wrote a blog or posted on social media if it didn’t get the attention I thought it should I would give up. Days, weeks, and months went by before I posted again. And, once again, if it didn’t get the attention I felt it deserved, I was crushed.

Here’s the thing. I’m not in this to become popular. Getting hundreds of likes or comments is not my purpose.

I’m in this to help someone become better. I do this to help the shy writer finally write the stories they have in their head and heart. I’m outspoken to give a voice to someone who is oppressed and/or ignored.

It wasn’t until I began to focus on my WHY that I said to hell with my parents’ validation or that of anyone else.

As long as I know what I do is important and there is a need for it, it doesn’t matter what people say and/or think about me. All that matters is I care about the person who reads or hears my message. I may have grown up without validation but I no longer allow the lack thereof to dictate what I say and do.

I don’t know who needs this right now but who cares if your parents didn’t support you. What’s the big deal your teachers didn’t understand you. Why does it matter if your family doesn’t get why you’re doing what you do.

You know you have a story to tell. There is a message inside of you. You know what you have to say matters. And if you know all this, it doesn’t matter if you get 1 like or 1,000 likes. What you do matters. You don’t need to be validated by anyone but yourself. Period.

Do you find yourself searching for validation in what you do? Let’s talk about it. Leave a comment below.