Take My Breath Away

Over the past few months there have been some amazing new changes in my personal and professional life. So many things have been going on that I haven’t really had a moment to catch my breath.


The little grown people and I moved into a new house. We were fortunate enough to find a place on the same block in which my grandmother lived for umpteen years before she passed 16 years ago. The house isn’t in the ideal section of the city, yet the block had a lot of history and memories from my childhood.

Test PaintingIt took a while to get our home together and, truthfully, there is still work needed to be done. Yet, it is our little place right now and I couldn’t be more excited. I’ve got tons of space for all my books – educational reading, business reading, composition, binders and leisure reading, which make me a happy camper. And there is enough space for me to have an office (sorta) which I desperately needed. The kids have their own space so they stay out of mine. It works for all of us.

Ironically, on the same day I signed the lease to my new home I bought my first car. Now, I’ve had my driver’s license for over a decade but I never had my own car before. I named her Emma and she is awesome. She isn’t new, a 2000 Chevy Malibu, but she gets us around and is amazing on gas which in a win/win scenario. Her previous owner didn’t take the greatest care of her, doing no maintenance work AT ALL. So, I got a few internal things done to make sure she ran the way she should – nothing major though. The crazy part is, I got her for really cheap and plan on slowly building her into something pretty cool.

Image courtesy of Stuart Miles and FreeDigitalPhotos.net
Image courtesy of Stuart Miles and FreeDigitalPhotos.net

In the midst of these two momentous occasions my clientele went through the roof. Some folks I had to put on hold and others I had to unwillingly turn away, which I never enjoy doing. With all the moving and renovating, there was no room for me to work, let alone on other people’s projects. It got downright crazy. It always seemed like I was being pulled into ninety different directions with no time to get my head on straight. However, as things are settling down I have managed to hold on to some writing gems.

The wordsmiths that I have been working for/with blow my mind at times and I know you guys will be presently impressed and in awe with their work. I won’t announce who I’m working with right now, as I haven’t ironed all specifics out. But more details are coming soon.

Due to the heavy volume of things to do, I haven’t had much time to sit and type. Most of my thoughts are jotted into one of my millions of notebooks for later transcription. However, I have managed to tinker around with the format of my other sites in an effort to add more content and gain more readership. It is a very tedious task and takes the small amount of focus I have left after everything else is done in a day. Also, there are two books in the works for release before the end of the year. The cover art will be revealed in the upcoming weeks and I will definitely keep you posted on the specific dates each will drop.

image by Naypong
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During all of this, I have managed to think of all of you. You guys have supported me for a very long time. You root for me when I have stopped cheering for myself out of exhaustion. If it wasn’t for you, the readers, giving me that extra push, I would have given up years ago. You may not feel that you’re doing anything more than reading the posts I write, but that means more to me than you could ever know. It’s not always easy to get a few moments to lay down everything that is going on in a post. But, if you follow me on social media (I’m on all of them), I send out blasts of my activities almost daily to keep everyone in the know.

With all the things going on, it has a tendency to take my breath away. However, I never forget about writing and I never forget about you, the reader. Just because you can’t see the change, doesn’t mean it isn’t happening.

Stay tuned.

Peace & Blessings

Socially Anti-Social

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The hustle and bustle of social media can be overwhelming. Like a six-lane highway, things move at a swift pace. If you pull out too soon, you could lose control. On the other hand, if you pull out too late you risk making those who are behind you miss their opportunity. In both situations, however, you will ultimately crash.

Highways give me anxiety. First off, I have very bad nerves. Making that split decision in high volume traffic makes me cringe. So, I take the scenic route most often. Now, I’ll ride the expressway in later hours but that doesn’t happen much.

Social Media by JanPietruszka

With social media, things are moving all the time and I get that same anxiety as merging on a highway. Honestly, getting myself to pull into traffic everyday has paralyzed me mentally. Just from the thought of making a move makes my brain overheat.

Being social in public, depending on my comfort level, is very easy and comes naturally. Being social through social media outlets, for work purposes, is very mind-boggling and causes me to panic.

The formula to successfully master the social media highway is no easy find. Plenty of articles and blogs spout about giving the clean-cut answer. For me, none of them worked.

My anxiety comes from my fear to allow people to see certain pieces of me. It’s a trust issue thing.

In public settings, I already know where I am and react as such. Through the web, a conversation may take me to places unknown and things unseen.

I had been socially anti-social. You know, talking but not attempting a real conversation. The give and take of normal communication was non-existent in my social media interactions. This is completely unacceptable in my line of work, especially if I wish to go far.

So, I decided to take the scenic route for a while.

  • Instead of feeling I had to create an opportunity for people to talk to me, I began conversing with those who already created a discussion point.
  • Instead of beating myself up for not coming up with a blog post for the day, I read posts on sites known and unknown to me.
  • Instead of pulling my hair out for forgetting to tweet my thoughts on a hot topic, I remember to re-tweet those who have similar thoughts.
  • Instead of fighting with my out-of-date-camera, I learn and get ideas from others’ videos.
  • Instead of panicking about likes and followers, I like and follow as many posts, people, and links as I can.

Eventually, I’ll be able to successfully manage the social media highway without needing to blow into a paper bag.  For now, I enjoy the scenery as I get to my destination. It may take me a little (or a lot) longer to get there, but at least I get to see some things that I may not get to view if I ride the highway all day, every day.

Maybe once I can master the real anxiety of a highway, I will be able to overcome the uneasiness of participating in the social media frenzy. Until then, I have to take things one trip at a time.

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Transformations are always interesting to watch. Many people don’t like change and are wary of even the slightest alteration. I can tell you that change is always hard for me, if I can be totally honest. However, sometimes change isn’t so bad.

I Mean, Really Dude is transforming, and I am so proud of the website. Growth, no matter how small, is always good.

First off, there is no longer .blogspot in the web address. Last week I proudly purchased the domain name in the hopes that this site becomes more than just the blog I started to air out my worldly grievances.

The layout has changed to allow more posts to be on the front page. The background is different too. I am not completely satisfied with the result but it will have to do for now.

As time progresses I Mean, Really Dude will be able to compete with other websites that highlight news and issues not widely talked about. At least that is my expectation.

I hope you all check out the changes that I Mean, Really Dude has gone through lately. There is also more to come if I can help it. 🙂

As usual, your support is humbling and it keeps me writing for all of you.

Until next time.