An Open Letter

One voice

There is something to be said about being afraid to speak up. For many people, it is a matter of not rubbing certain folks the wrong way or looking bad in the eyes of people. For others, it is a matter of just not caring enough to say a word; saving their cares for their own lives.

As a writer, you have to find your voice.

For some writers it’s an easy task and for others it is quite difficult. Some mimic the voices of other writers in an effort to play it safe. And some carve their own path with the hopes that people will respect them for it.

In A Handbook for the Productive Writer, Bryan Collins writes, “When you write, take a stance. Have an opinion and pick a fight.”

“Be a heretic,” says Rob Booker, “The secret of heretic-ship is simple. Do what you believe in. Paint a picture of the future. Go there.” (From Build a Tribe, Not a Business)

“Swing Your Slingshot”, Mary Fernandez states, “Creating an us versus them scenario builds solidarity and brings your tribe closer to you.” (From 9 Surefire Strategies for Standing Out in a Sea of Sameness)

If we’re going to do great work, it means that some people aren’t going to like it. ~Seth Godin (From Is Everyone Entitled to Their Opinion)

Many writers will tell you that being yourself is the best type of writer you can be. Having the willingness to use your words in a way that will make people take notice is a gift.

Even if you are not a writer, being able to stand and say what others may be thinking takes strength and courage.

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. ~Nelson Mandela

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved. ~Helen Keller

He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life. ~Muhammad Ali

Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience. ~Paulo Coelho

These quotes and many others have inspired me in a way that I truly did not expect. There is always an apprehension when it comes to addressing particular subjects. I tend to rant and rave behind closed doors but never openly discuss what’s on my mind.

Then it happened.

I couldn’t sleep a little over a week ago, tossing and turning until my bed sheets were all over the place. Suddenly, I jumped up, grabbed my laptop and proceeded to type out what was keeping me awake.

The words flew out of me and onto the computer screen. Once done, I couldn’t have been more proud that I finally said some things I thought when no one was around.

For the next few days I took to editing and rewriting these strong feelings and emotions, molding them into just the right way. It took almost two weeks but ultimately it became the realest post I have ever written.

This post, which can be found on I Mean, Really Dude, is an open letter to many groups which have negative ideas. It is not with the intention to be malicious. It is, however, written with love and the hope that people will take heed.

One voice can change the world as long as it makes a sound. ~Trina Lynne


If You Don’t Laugh…

by Stuart Miles courtesy of
by Stuart Miles courtesy of

A close friend of mine always says, “If you don’t laugh, you cry.”

That statement couldn’t be furthest from the truth.

There are so many things going on in this world that can make the strongest person shed a tear. War, famine, and regular injustices plague our world at an alarming rate. Every day there is a story about some tragedy that could have been avoided by softer hearts.

For this reason I created I Mean, Really Dude. It’s a way for me to laugh at the things that I would normally cry over. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not insensitive. It’s just I would rather see the hilarity and irony out of things.

In no way do I find the pain of others a matter to take lightly but I do find the ironic reality hilarious.

For instance, a man stabbing his own brother over a video game. The situation is a tragedy but the fact that siblings kill or hurt one another over things so minimal gets my sarcasm going. Why can’t we love each other more? Why can’t we be less aggressive? Was the game that important?

I look at everything as a means of learning. Each situation is an opportunity for us to look at our lives in a cynical way. If we spend all our time being serious, we lose sight of what is really important. Sometimes you have to smile to avoid the stress that comes with life.

It may seem like I am crazy for saying so, but as sad as the world’s issues are, I need to laugh at certain things to keep from feeling depressed.

Like how the government overlooks the problems of our own country to fight another. Sad, right? Now think about how they are so in debt from other wars that forging another one is asinine. See the hilarity?

It’s a dark humor, but humor none the less.

I could totally lose supporters and fans for admitting such a thing. Honestly, I don’t mind. If you can’t see my point, that is all right. But I would rather be honest about it and not lie to you.

Would you respect me more if I told the truth or if I pretended to not be the way I am?

Being an empathetic person, I feel the pain of others without knowing them. Do you know the amount of depression I incur due to being bipolar? If I don’t laugh, I’ll go crazy.

Don’t be alarmed. I don’t go around laughing at other people’s pain. I do, however, give myself the opportunity to see the laughter in life. Some things can’t be laughed at, but most things have an irony to them.

Kind of like the Malaysian plane that went missing. By far, I do not find the hurt and pain of the families funny. I pray they find solace in the memories of their loved ones. I do, however, find it sarcastically ironic that the governments looking for the plane fed us the cockamamie stories about finding the plane debris, than not finding it, than finding it again, than not finding it, than finding it again to end the search. I mean, really???

No matter how many examples I give I’ll either seem really cold-hearted or really strong for not allowing things to get to me. It’s up to you how you see what I am saying.

All I can do is be honest about it and ask that you try to see my point of view without judgment.

If you still aren’t convinced that I mean everything with the sincerest of intentions, check out I Mean, Really Dude for yourself. I am very selective about the stories I cover. Like I said, some things CAN’T be laughed at but most things will bring you slight relief in its tragic nature.

Before you close your mind to it, give it a try. Sarcasm eases the pain we would normally feel if we allow it.

Until next time.